It is the day of Eid; it was another day of war. It is a time to celebrate; it was a time to die. People are praying the Eid prayer; people were praying at funerals. People are decorating their houses; people were evacuating their homes. We feel like we are all going directly to heaven; we felt like we were all in living hell. It is a time to be hopeful; it was a time of despair, Children are playing on swings; children were dying in swings. People are visiting their relatives to wish them a happy Eid; people were visiting to wish mercy for the dead. This year’s celebration keeps getting entangled with memories of last year’s wartime Eid.
The war started during the month of Ramadan last year. Ramadan is the Muslim holy month when the Quran was revealed. We fast from sunrise to sunset for the sake of Allah (God). At the end of Ramadan, we celebrate “Little Eid,” which Allah gives to us as a reward for fasting during the holy month. Three months later, we celebrate Big Eid, following the time for the annual pilgrimage to Mecca in Saudi Arabia, which all Muslims are required to make at least once in their lives. This is when we sacrifice a goat for the sake of Allah.
I was in the kitchen in the middle of Ramadan last year, with my mother, preparing pizza and meat pies for iftar, the time after sunset when we break our fast. The food looked delicious and smelled even better, especially because I was so hungry. There was an hour left until iftar, so I went to my room, opened my laptop computer and started to read the news about what had happened in Shujaya and other places in Gaza.
Suddenly I heard a very loud explosion. White dust was everywhere, and I didn’t know what had happened.
My four brothers were all screaming, "A missile hit the balcony! Get out right now!” One of my brothers went to examine the balcony, when another missile struck the same place. We all knew we had to get out immediately. Everyone gathered on the ground floor; the children were in shock; no one said a word. But our white faces said everything about our feelings.
While we were leaving, a third missile hit the house. Our large family left in three cars, going different directions. Two brothers went to the homes of their respective in-laws. I was in the car with my third brother, his family and my parents. He was driving crazily, and I thought if we didn’t die from an airstrike we would definitely be killed in a car accident. We reached the house of my grandmother, which we thought would be safer, as the call for the prayer for iftar rang out. We were all shaking involuntarily. I was trying to appear strong as we sat around my grandma’s table with the food she had prepared for her and grandpa, which now had to be shared by us all. But my trembling hand holding the spoon exposed my true state. I suddenly remembered the meat pies sitting on our kitchen table, now either under a cloud of white dust and debris or entirely destroyed.
The Little Eid of last year is still strong in my memory. I particularly remember when I woke up, I looked around; it was dark, no electricity, just a ray of light coming from the only window in the room. My father, mother and I were sleeping on mattresses. The previous day wasn’t as joyful as the last day of Ramadan usually is.
We are normally so excited to welcome the Eid. Together, with my mother, sisters, and sisters-in- law, we prepare Eid cookies with dates. It's part of our Eid tradition tot we serve these cookies along with Arabic coffee to guests. The night before Eid, I sit with my father and mother with loads of chocolate, toys and balloons before us, and prepare them for the children, so each one of them has a small plastic bag loaded with them to take home.
After a week and a half at our relatives’ house, I was in desperate need to go back home. I felt that I was being suffocated in this place with three families jammed together in a few rooms, the sound of explosions from afar and the sad faces of the children. When I learned we could go back to our home during a truce, which had just been declared, I felt like I was able to breathe again.
The roads were crowded; people were returning to their houses. Everyone was dressed in black or somber colors. I was wearing my black abaya (long, coat-like dress) as well. I don’t usually wear black or an abaya during Eid, but this time it was not possible to wear anything else; we were grieving for the dead. Without any discussion, we all dressed for mourning, feeling that wearing any other color would betray the souls of the martyrs.
The moment I entered our house the telephone rang; I answered and heard the automated voice of an Israeli soldier saying in broken Arabic, “Cooperate with us; you saw what happened in Shujaya and Khuzaa [both sites of massacres]. Know that there is no safe place in Gaza for any of you." My heart began beating violently.
I had heard before that people receive these calls. There are two kinds of calls: threatening ones like the one I received, and ones with a direct order to evacuate, which I feared to receive. I was shaking, listening for the word “evacuation.” I was imagining the situation; in just seconds, all kinds of scenarios passed through my head. How will we leave? Will we actually leave? Yes, I guess. But how difficult it will be, to leave everything behind and go. What if something bad happened to a member of my family? Then I recalled the faces of each one of them. I tried not to think of that. Can I take anything? Then I remembered how I barely had time to put on my hijab the time we fled the house because of the missile attack.
The voice on the telephone stopped talking, and I hadn’t heard the order. I hung up the phone. I didn’t tell anyone about the call; I thought they would worry more, and I didn’t want to leave the house where we had all gathered during the truce for a family meal.
We were happy to see each other after a week-and-a-half separation, but we were afraid, too, that something bad might happen or that the truce would be broken.
My nephew came and sat next to me, and then asked me, "Auntie, what is the name of this Eid?”
"It’s the Little Eid,” I said.
He seemed suspicious.
Despite the horror we felt at the death and destruction all around us, I still remember the light in my heart at seeing and sitting with them around the table for lunch, as though it were a normal Eid. In spite of little food, and the smell of the fear that controlled us while the drones buzzed over our heads, we were laughing from the heart. It had been many days since we had gathered at a table as a family.
Suddenly we heard explosions. On the radio we heard that children had been shelled when they were playing on a swing set in the beach (refugee) camp. Israel had broken the truce. There were bombs exploding everywhere. We were afraid our home might be shelled again at any minute, so we hastily prepared to leave in our separate directions once more.
I was hugging everyone goodbye, and when I leaned down to embrace my nephew, he whispered in my ear, "You must be wrong. This is the Big Eid; many people are being sacrificed."